Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Happy Valentines Day!
1. Anytime you have a negative thought enter your mind about your beloved, realize who is the originator of it and replace it with positives. My husband jokes now about how he used to call home before he came home just to make sure the Devil hadn't convinced me that he was the devil in disguise. Sometimes I would get so upset about some little thing (he left his dirty socks on the floor again!, He forgot to .... blah blah blah...you get the idea) and it would snowball. By the time he came home I would be so upset and would become cold and stiff.
2. Tell him how great he is...and don't let him get out of it. My husband doesn't always recieve compliments very well, so I have made it my goal to help him by giving him practice.
3. Schedule "sugar" days. Certain days of the week are mine and certain days of the week are his. It is scheduled. How un-romantic you may say; but it works. This is very important! You didn't go through your honeymoon a day without it, why stop now. His "sugar" is always...um..."sugar"; but sometimes mine is a back rub or a foot rub. We leave one day a week open.
4.Make sure he knows he is in first place in your heart, not the children. Not your parents. When our children are infants I pay special attention to this. I spend so much time performing their necessities (I also enjoy holding them, smelling them, and kissing them when they can't complain) that it is easy to leave him out. (Our special "sugar" schedule helps with this point too!) One thing I have learned is to not let them interrupt him when he is talking to me. No matter how important they think what they are saying is (unless there is a REAL emergency.
Four tips to keep you sweet for your honey!
Until next time,