KHATS 13...Speak Life!

 
So often I hear mothers, usually single mothers, speak SO harshly to their children.   "What's wrong with you!!!...You always doing something dumb!!!...That was so stupid!!! You look so ugly." - Saying things like this to your children will bring only death.  Death to their spirit.  Death to their love, trust, and admiration for you.  Death to the atmosphere of your home, or of the atmosphere of the public place you are visiting.  And death to your child's potential. 
Mothers,  SPEAK LIFE! 

I understand that so often you are tired and frustrated because of the everyday dealings of life; but don't take it out on your child(ren).  When they do dumb things...and they will; or when they do clumsy things - correct them with a loving spirit or ignore it until YOU can address it calmly.
Once again this is an issue of self control.  Temperance (Galatians 5:22-23)  Life will be harsh enough for them without us adding to its harshness.  As the saying goes...if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.  That applies to us moms as well as children.

I'd like to take it a step further and encourage you to speak the Word of God to them.  I am not saying quote scripture AT them.  I am saying use Bible words when speaking to them. (ie Obey, be kind, was that a wise choice?, etc.) Let the Lord be our example in this area.  Remember that He spoke the world into existence.  I wonder what we could speak into our children if we purposed to do so.

Until next time,






Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  Proverbs 18:21

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April highlights in color

Trouble in the church's restroom!

A visit to the zoo with the cousins

Future musician

Me and my helpers working in the garden under the umbrella my hubby got for us.

Until next time,

Weight loss

 

The photo on the left is me about a year and four months ago at a whopping 230lbs!  No, I am not pregnant...baby Beckles is in the photo with me at a antiques sale. The latter is me in the 160's club!  If you have never heard of the trim healthy mama way of eating, let me introduce it to you! CLICK HERE! My husband bought the book for me because I was discouraged about my weight.  I would gain 40 - 60 pounds with each pregnancy (3) and I would work hard for about a year just to loose all but about 10 pounds before I became pregnant again.  We would like to have as large a family as the Lord allows...I'm  thinking 8 to 10 kiddos...but I just can't imagine what would have happened to me at the aforementioned rate of weight gain. I am SO thankful for this knew knowledge about food and health.  Should you choose to try it, Remember to keep it simple!!!  We have a VERY limited budget. (My husband is the pastor of a small church and works part-time at Wal-Mart to make ends meet.) I mention our budget because there are a lot of things recommended, but not necessary to follow this eating plan. I follow the principles taught by Serene and Pearl and add the "extra" or "special" things as I am able.  Thank you Lord (and Serene and Pearl... and their families who sacrificed time with them for our benefit!)  for helping me to get control of my weight!!!

Until Next Time,
 

Pant-Skirt Transformation

It is often SO hard to find good skirts for my girls to wear that I finally decided to learn to make these.  Let me tell you...I am Very glad I did!  The whole process takes me (very important) about two hours to do.  I am not a perfectionist or a professional...but I get is done!!!  If I can do it, you can too.
A photo journal of my crafting project...

From this...

to this!

 

 

 

 

I needed to add elastic in the waist so I took out the elastic from the old and faded yellow skirt pictured above and added it to this one.

 

 

Cut excess, then cut seam in the front up to the zipper.

 

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Repeated the necessary steps for the front then hemmed it up.

Added decorative stitch on hem.

I still have more to do...but I am excited to do them!
 

 Continue reading at your own risk.

Some of you may be thinking...why bother.  Well, in our family we have decided that I and my girls will only wear skirts.  I decided to stop wearing pants when I was 12 years old.  One day after I arrived back home from a youth conference I threw all my pants away. I don't remember anyone preaching specifically on this topic, but I noticed it was in the handbook for the permitted dress code...so I thought that was how Christians ladies were supposed to dress. My mom thought I was CRAZY!  I only had two dresses and a skirt at the time, but the Lord provided and she had to permit it since she wasn't home when I dumped them in the dumpster...on trash day. A few weeks later I won a contest in Sunday School and my teacher took me shopping for another Sunday dress (Thanks Mrs. Whittington!).  Also, one of my public school teachers (Thanks, Mrs. Brown!) gave me two other dresses to wear. When the next school semester rolled around Mama took me shopping for more skirts and dresses.

What do I think now and why am I forcing this on my daughters?

Because it's feminine and it is one of the easiest ways for us as ladies (young and old) to identify with Christ.  Believe me, it's not always the easiest route.  One of my daughters is very alert to fashion. " In fact I have had to "up my game". We have had many discussions about this and she is only five - so I am sure we will be having more "discussions".
 One day I put on a new and more fashionable dress and she said to me, "Wow Mama, you look like Sister ... " I thanked her and decided to do better at showing her that just because I wear only dresses and skirts, doesn't mean I can't look pretty and up to date. Also, I try to tell her that when people see a young lady in a dress out in public they automatically associate her with church, religion, and/or Christ. Whether the girl is a Christian or not ...it's true.  What we wear may speak louder that what we say.    

(I'm not meaning for this to be a sermon...but rather a testimony...my testimony.)
Whether this is your practice or not, I hope this post is a blessing.

Until Next Time,

The Tooth Fairy pays a visit

Wow!!! has it really been six months since I last posted here? Time flies when you're having fun....or just plain busy.  Life with three is REALLY different....especially when the youngest is a boy who likes to jump off tables and help mama clean out all the drawers in the bathroom! They keep me on my toes.  That being said....
I love spending time with my family!  Here are a few snapshots from our life in the month of February.

Aaliyah's tooth fell out at church and she lost it before she got home.  She put this under her pillow instead and hoped for the best.  Of course, Daddy and Mommy obliged.

Cassidy loves to play on the computer at the library and doing puzzles.

Say cheese.... he signs it instead.  lil' Raymond signs more than  both my girls did at this age (18 months).

Until next time, 

Family update

So...what have the Beckles been up to...
1.  Gardening

 

 

 2. Trying out new hair do's

 3.  Trying on my wedding dress!

 

 5.   and Celebrating Birthday's

 

Until next time,

Lead by Example

One lady that I have a lot of admiration and respect for came to visit us a few weeks back.  For  three years I was able to observe Mrs. Theresa Lucas in action.  Her husband, Leon Lucas, was our pastor when we lived in North Carolina.  A more diligent, thankful, and sweet woman you will never find; but the characteristic or attribute I want to thank her for demonstrating to me is in the area of prayer.  Proverbs 8:17 says -  I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.
 Mrs. Lucas always encouraged everyone around her to pray before you began anything...and I mean anything and everything.  Before we began any activity- she prayed, before she turned the car engine on to travel anywhere -she prayed, before we began to practice for a song- she prayed, before she began to cook dinner- she prayed. 

I don't know if it's just my personality, or pride, or what; but I tend to dive into things that I think I am capable of handling without prayer; forgetting that the scriptures tell us that ...."I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing." John 15:5
Thank you Mrs. Lucas for the reminder!
Until next time,