The first day they showed up we quizzed them about thier salvation and such. The young man - let's call him Bob- was just saved about a month before. The wife has been saved for about four years. He had been unemployed for one year and a half; and she has been unemployed for about a year. Their parent had just bought them a van a week before to help them out; but promised this was it. So here is where we come into the picture.
As I mentioned before, they came to us as a couple with one on the way; but later that evening they told us about two other children they had who were staying with a "friend" until they found a home. They didn't know that my husband had met the lady on visitation about three weeks before and she was preparing to adopt the children she was keeping and the one child that the mother was carrying as well.
Both of us found out that this "friend" had not recieved the parents consent to this adoption. The day after the couple found out they weren't going to get the house, the lady gave them an ultimative, "Sign over the kids or come and pick them up." Well, she decided to drop them off at the church instead. (Honestly, I can't say that I side with either couple on this issue. A complete understanding should have been make at the very beginning of this arrangement - signed on paper by all involved, especially if DHS was involved or aware. This would have cleared up things a bit and maybe saved a friendship.
Anyway...We were excited about the kids coming; especially Nikitta and Alliyah. They both have a new best friend. (Niki's is the dad, Allys is the younger of the two children.)
To make a long story shorter (once again!) The Lord has done marvelous things for this young family. In one months time:
1. He cut his hair!
2. He has found a job that pays great with good benefits.
3. He has found a good friend and mentor in my husband. He loves to just tag along with Raymond, no matter what Ray is doing. (Raymond put him to work around the church!)
4. We have been offering advice on just about everything from finances, marriage issues, and child rearing.
5. Just yesterday they found a home. They should be able to move in in about a week and a half. - I noticed this townhouse was vacant and took the wife (we will call her Sally) by. She took a tour and fell in love with it. It comes furnished and has a refrigerator, washer and dryer, a stove, and a dishwasher. I will try not to be jealous!
6. Their youngest child has began signing. Ray and I sign with Alliyah (something I recommend for every parent of young children) and he has caught on!
7. They have become a more loving and peaceful family. We read the Bible with them at the dinner table and they read together as a couple in the evenings. We encouraged them in this when they first arrived and they caught on.
To sum everything up, please pray for this young couple. I am sure it is a lot easier to do right when you live in the church with the Pastor and his wife. The real challenge will come when they are on thier own.
(In order to protect thier privacy as much as possible I have changed thier names and will be offering no pictures at this time.)